Hi, I’m Geoff.
I’m a coach and a writer. Thank you so much for visiting my website!
I was born into a narcissistic family that taught me that I was only worthy of love if I was achieving grandiose professional goals. I dealt with this during my childhood by withdrawing socially and overachieving academically. I can count the number of parties I went to in my teenage years on the fingers of one hand.
As an adult, my inability to share my emotions, lack of close relationships and punishingly high standards left me prone to depression. For 7 years, I consistently suffered with energy issues, low motivation, and not knowing how to deal with my sensitivity. My romantic relationships and professional life were full of drama and emotional chaos. I also ate poorly and was an on-off exerciser for most of my 20s.
I’ve been interested in psychology since I was 15, which is almost 20 years ago. Psychology has given me the tools to make sense of my story and share it openly with others. Along the way, I’ve read dozens of books, watched countless hours of Youtube videos and experienced 4 different schools of therapy — plus 2 more alternative healing modalities. You can see a list of the resources that have helped me here.
Having previously been socially awkward, I now derive joy from connecting to other people. I enjoy hearing other people’s stories and sharing mine where appropriate. I’ve made myself largely secure in terms of attachment, and have spent a lot of time developing the ability to listen to people and hold space for them. I no longer tolerate abusive relationships of any kind in my life.
I also no longer neglect my physical body. I discovered meal prep in 2019 and cook all my meals for the week on Sunday evenings. I stopped forcing myself to work out, and started seeing exercise as play. Badminton gives me joy, strengthens my body and lifts up my spirit. And as a sensitive introvert, I know when I need to avoid sugar or put on my trusty noise-cancelling headphones. 
The journey I’ve been on has been immensely challenging, but equally rewarding. My life today is far from perfect, but it’s so much more functional than it was 10 years ago.
I created this website to share what I’ve learned with you. I hope you find value here.
Start your journey towards inner peace today.